好久没写点什么了，最近一直在忙着给澜澜做闪卡，信息如潮水一般汹涌，我需要时间来整理思绪。
昨天去医院检查了，一切都很正常，澜澜不大不小，告诉了医生几周前的faint accident，医生说从一切检查结果看没什么可担心的，大人和孩子都很健康，只要今后自己多注意些就好了。
昨天安静详和的一个上午之后我踏着灿烂的阳光午休回家吃饭，路上给佳打了个电话，闲聊了几句，到家后饱餐了一顿，最后一口甚至还没咽痛快就着实的被噎着了。
哥打来电话，我已经不记得上次他打电话给我是什么时候了，接起电话就劈头盖脸一句，“我听说你现在整天不吃饭绝食，你想干什么呀？”他说话态度之恶劣，说话内容之荒谬，我的火顿冒三丈。他的这个结论只凭借一个事实，就是我目前为止体重增长不多，便“听说”着认为我整天不吃饭，不去先跟我聊聊我的生活以得到一些更为确切的信息，也不去读一书了解一些事实，人与人是不同的，尤其是怀孕这件事，他身边的人怀孕涨十千克开外并不代表着那就是一个标准，也不代表着那就是健康的象征，便以一种居高临下的态度对我根本没有做过的事进行批判。我真是太久没有受过这样的“礼遇”了，而且我一直花尽心思健康科学的生活的事实让这种指责对于我来说是多么的不公平。于是我也态度很不和蔼的告诉了他我非旦没有绝食并挖空心思健康饮食的事实及我所认可的原因及科学依据。我的一席话之后他沉默了，承认他之前没有很确凿的证据，并对他在不了解完全事实的情况下对我做的指责表示道歉，话说的及其不真诚，但必竟是一句道歉的话，我于是平静了，虽然火还在燃烧，但声调已经可以被我控制到平常的水平了。
其实最让我生气甚至是失望的不是他的态度和他的指责本身，而是指责所成立的一个他所毫不怀疑的基础，就是我肤浅愚蠢到象那些无脑的模特一样，为了保持体型而不顾孩子的健康在怀孕的时候节食减肥。我认为这种与事实完全相饽的观点对于我来说不仅仅是一个与事实不府的评论，更是一种污辱。他认为我是个什么样的母亲。他在最后说他之所以打这个电话原因有二，第一因为关心我，第二因为了解我。哦，天哪，我心里苦笑两声，心想我甚至找不到第二个更不了解我的人了。
其实别人怎么看我，我一向不在乎，哪怕他们认为我是个十恶不赦的恶棍，这是他们的权力，跟我没有关系，只要不当面污辱我，侵犯我，影响我的生活。但哥的电话让我很生气，因为他的话伤了我，因为他是我的家人而不是一般的“别人”，因为从小长到大他曾是我的偶像，而如今我俩的距离却如此之大，似形同陌路，他能如此误会我，甚至还不如陌路。
下午回到办公室，我摸着肚子悄悄的说，“对不起，澜澜，我今天生气了，产生了很多消极的化学物质给你，就当是你舅舅送你的礼物吧，让你提前了解到“生活不总是愉悦的”的道理。”
4.29.2009
4.21.2009
The ideas of raising a baby after brainwashed by Doman
After the fall on Saturday, I cancelled all social activities and spent the whole weekend staying at home and making the infant stimuluation cards for our bean after I read heaps of things on website about Glenn Doman and his theory of baby's brain development. The project was bigger and more time consumming than what I thought, but I enjoyed doing it. In the end of Sunday, I was pround of the cards I made. I showed them to Chris and he complimented my efforts by saying they're very beautiful cards and he's very stimulated by looking at them. Gee... "You can give that another try after trying for 40 years." I wanted to be naughty to joke back, but finanly I chose to be nice and smiled at him instead.
There are four things that are fundamental in early eduction - affection, nutrition, repetition and stimulation, based on Doman's theory. It's like a moto in my head these days and I think about it all the time. The first three years are the best time for a person to learn things. Once you pass three, you will never learn things as fast as you could. It's just the way how human brain grows.
Another fascinating point is that the intellence of a brain is not gifted. Geans partly help decide if a well-fuctioned brain is formed, however, a well-fuctioned brain alone doesn't give a smart brain. If anything, it only gives potentiality to be a smart brain. Indeed, how smart a brain is depends on how well it is developed and how often it has been used. The more often a brain is used, the more it is developed, the more and deeper areas it can reach, the faster and better it can function, therefore the smarter it is.
Stimulaiton is the way of development. You can learn better and quicker when you are stimulated and interested. It's the rule that applies to both adults and babies. The only difference is adults have decipline that we sometimes learn things that we don't like when we have to whereas babies just don't give a shit, excuse my language. :) They only learn when they think it's interesting and stop at the first minute when they are bored. Therefore, it's crutial for parents to try as various ways as possible to stimulate your baby and carefully observe the first sign of their boredom.
It's fascinating, isn't it?
There are four things that are fundamental in early eduction - affection, nutrition, repetition and stimulation, based on Doman's theory. It's like a moto in my head these days and I think about it all the time. The first three years are the best time for a person to learn things. Once you pass three, you will never learn things as fast as you could. It's just the way how human brain grows.
Another fascinating point is that the intellence of a brain is not gifted. Geans partly help decide if a well-fuctioned brain is formed, however, a well-fuctioned brain alone doesn't give a smart brain. If anything, it only gives potentiality to be a smart brain. Indeed, how smart a brain is depends on how well it is developed and how often it has been used. The more often a brain is used, the more it is developed, the more and deeper areas it can reach, the faster and better it can function, therefore the smarter it is.
Stimulaiton is the way of development. You can learn better and quicker when you are stimulated and interested. It's the rule that applies to both adults and babies. The only difference is adults have decipline that we sometimes learn things that we don't like when we have to whereas babies just don't give a shit, excuse my language. :) They only learn when they think it's interesting and stop at the first minute when they are bored. Therefore, it's crutial for parents to try as various ways as possible to stimulate your baby and carefully observe the first sign of their boredom.
It's fascinating, isn't it?
Daddy's little rock star
In order not to make a bigger fuss than it already is, I'm going to use lanuguage to reduce the amount of possible concerned hearts after reading what I'm about to write, because more and more regular readers of my blog told me once in a while that they don't understand a squad of what I'm talking about when I wrote in English.
I fainted at train station on Saturday last week and I was alone when it happened. I fell from behind and my back hit ground hard, but luckily my head was intact and even more luckily so was my tummy. As soon as I fell, people came to help, asking if I was alright, how I felt, helping me to sit up and the staff in the station started calling ambulance.
I regained my conscience in about 20 seconds. I didn't feel sick, just a bit weak. Before I knew it, I was already in the centre of a big scence, and it got worse when I told them I'm pregnant. I was thinking that they might be able to notice my sticking-out tummy, but once again the fact is that my tiny bump sometimes just isn't give away info easily.
Very soon I felt all normal again and didn't quite understand why I fainted given that I have been so healthy since I'm pregnant. I told people I felt a lot better and would call my husband to rescue me. I also told them to cancel the ambulence. Although I have a lot of curiosity of a ride in ambulence, I honestly didn't think I was serious enough to get such treatment. The staff of station asked me to rest in the office when I was waiting for Chris and took some info from my ID. I guess it was for some caution precedures.
Chris came wihin five minutes. I saw a little relife on his face as soon as he saw me. He must have been very worried after the phone call. He asked the staff how it exact happened and the guy in the ticket window said he didn't really see it but heard a big noise when I fell. From the noise, it didn't sound like an easy fall. I told Chris I didn't hurt my head, just my back and right elbow feels a bit sore.
Then he took me to the medical centre cross the road. He said it would be quicker to get medical attention there than driving 10 minutes and waiting in the hospital. Having told the receptionist in medical centre that what had happened, I was arranged to lie down in the treatment room while we were waiting for the doctor. Chris was sitting next to me and holding my hand. I felt more emotionally shocked than physically unfit. I was keen to make sure that our bean was unharmed. She was moving a lot during the whole time, which I felt grateful for. At least I know she's still alive.
It wasn't long before the doctor came and she ran a bunch of tests on me. It turned out nothing serious to worry about. Baby is fine and the reason of the faint was my low blood pressure which could be caused by walking too fast and dyhydration. It made sense as I was walking to station to catch a train to city before the faint and hadn't yet drink any water. Although I didn't mean to rush, I could walk at my normal speed which is pretty fast. Although I knew plenty fluid is important for me, I just didn't get chance to start drinking water on that day as going to station was the first thing I did after breakfast and I usually don't drink water before or during breakies.
This accident is like a warning, making me realise that you could never be too cautious when you are pregnant. I feel guilty to our bean that I didn't look after her very well. I could do a lot better than this.
I'm 25 weeks pregnant now. Bean is growing at her pace. Everytime when she moves, as long as I can, I touch and rub my tummy to response. Sometimes she gets it and moves more. It's exciting and fascinating. I feel it's the first way of our commnunication.
She seems like music, blues better than classic. She always moves a lot when I put blues on. I watched the video of Cross Road Concert with Chris one time and she had a big kick when B.B.King was on. We then all laughed. Like mother, like daughter. She is also very active when Chris plays guitar around me and always response back when Chris sings to my tummy. No doubt that she's her daddy's little rock star!
I fainted at train station on Saturday last week and I was alone when it happened. I fell from behind and my back hit ground hard, but luckily my head was intact and even more luckily so was my tummy. As soon as I fell, people came to help, asking if I was alright, how I felt, helping me to sit up and the staff in the station started calling ambulance.
I regained my conscience in about 20 seconds. I didn't feel sick, just a bit weak. Before I knew it, I was already in the centre of a big scence, and it got worse when I told them I'm pregnant. I was thinking that they might be able to notice my sticking-out tummy, but once again the fact is that my tiny bump sometimes just isn't give away info easily.
Very soon I felt all normal again and didn't quite understand why I fainted given that I have been so healthy since I'm pregnant. I told people I felt a lot better and would call my husband to rescue me. I also told them to cancel the ambulence. Although I have a lot of curiosity of a ride in ambulence, I honestly didn't think I was serious enough to get such treatment. The staff of station asked me to rest in the office when I was waiting for Chris and took some info from my ID. I guess it was for some caution precedures.
Chris came wihin five minutes. I saw a little relife on his face as soon as he saw me. He must have been very worried after the phone call. He asked the staff how it exact happened and the guy in the ticket window said he didn't really see it but heard a big noise when I fell. From the noise, it didn't sound like an easy fall. I told Chris I didn't hurt my head, just my back and right elbow feels a bit sore.
Then he took me to the medical centre cross the road. He said it would be quicker to get medical attention there than driving 10 minutes and waiting in the hospital. Having told the receptionist in medical centre that what had happened, I was arranged to lie down in the treatment room while we were waiting for the doctor. Chris was sitting next to me and holding my hand. I felt more emotionally shocked than physically unfit. I was keen to make sure that our bean was unharmed. She was moving a lot during the whole time, which I felt grateful for. At least I know she's still alive.
It wasn't long before the doctor came and she ran a bunch of tests on me. It turned out nothing serious to worry about. Baby is fine and the reason of the faint was my low blood pressure which could be caused by walking too fast and dyhydration. It made sense as I was walking to station to catch a train to city before the faint and hadn't yet drink any water. Although I didn't mean to rush, I could walk at my normal speed which is pretty fast. Although I knew plenty fluid is important for me, I just didn't get chance to start drinking water on that day as going to station was the first thing I did after breakfast and I usually don't drink water before or during breakies.
This accident is like a warning, making me realise that you could never be too cautious when you are pregnant. I feel guilty to our bean that I didn't look after her very well. I could do a lot better than this.
I'm 25 weeks pregnant now. Bean is growing at her pace. Everytime when she moves, as long as I can, I touch and rub my tummy to response. Sometimes she gets it and moves more. It's exciting and fascinating. I feel it's the first way of our commnunication.
She seems like music, blues better than classic. She always moves a lot when I put blues on. I watched the video of Cross Road Concert with Chris one time and she had a big kick when B.B.King was on. We then all laughed. Like mother, like daughter. She is also very active when Chris plays guitar around me and always response back when Chris sings to my tummy. No doubt that she's her daddy's little rock star!
4.17.2009
分解在stimulation中
这两天好象一下子丧失了写作能力。大概因为脑子里太乱，信息量一过大我奔二的大脑有点开始抓瞎。不过手闲了脑子倒是没闲着，抓瞎也要继续思考。关于澜澜的早期教育，试图从乱麻中找出一条线来，随着想随着跟Chris叨唠，不会很有条理，他就凑合听吧，居然听完后对我说，“你会是一个好妈妈的。”我叹了口气，“不敢说啊，我尽量吧。”
昨天不经意间发现元元怀孕的消息，好一个惊喜啊。她的预产期整比我早一个月，真巧。昨晚在网上跟她聊了好一会。当年华辉的五个女孩里，没想到我俩碰到一起生孩子。其实说出来，大概我俩的境遇最相象，出国读书、之后工作、嫁了鬼子、在异国他乡结婚。我俩是同一年结的婚，如今同一年生孩子，有时人生的这点事就怕放在一起数，越数越好玩。她因为考虑到父母，结婚后和老公一起回了北京，结果赶上了金融危机，不好找工作，老公一直待业在家。这毕竟不是长久之计，于是她现在计划着生完孩子和老公回法国定居。这让我不禁想起上次回家哥跟我说的“几件事”的理论，想着如果当时从了，如今我和Chris也会如此一般景象。我没有办法越来越坚信，自己一定要坐自己生活的主人，只有先把自己的生活打理好了，才有可能以一种积极的方式去照顾、帮助、慰解别人的生活，如父母的生活，如果自己的生活都是一团麻，与父母离得再近、天天相见又意义几何，父母会快乐的看着自己孩子整天在如麻的生活里抓麻吗？
前两天经Lily点拔，买了Glenn Doman的两本书。自她走后我便沉浸在Doman教授的理论中，于是stimulation成了一个在脑海里再也挥不去的理念。他说爱因斯坦成为天才并非缘于基因，而是因为他的大脑在幼年被很好的开发了。因此原则上说，人人都能成为爱因斯坦，只要知道the right thing to do。
现在澜澜一有动静，我就会把手放在肚子上揉一揉，按一按，这是与她的第一种交流方式，当她收到了我的反应后就会动得更欢，完全象网站上所说的，真不可思议。这便是一种stimulation。亲爱的澜澜，你和妈妈已经开始有交流了。
昨天不经意间发现元元怀孕的消息，好一个惊喜啊。她的预产期整比我早一个月，真巧。昨晚在网上跟她聊了好一会。当年华辉的五个女孩里，没想到我俩碰到一起生孩子。其实说出来，大概我俩的境遇最相象，出国读书、之后工作、嫁了鬼子、在异国他乡结婚。我俩是同一年结的婚，如今同一年生孩子，有时人生的这点事就怕放在一起数，越数越好玩。她因为考虑到父母，结婚后和老公一起回了北京，结果赶上了金融危机，不好找工作，老公一直待业在家。这毕竟不是长久之计，于是她现在计划着生完孩子和老公回法国定居。这让我不禁想起上次回家哥跟我说的“几件事”的理论，想着如果当时从了，如今我和Chris也会如此一般景象。我没有办法越来越坚信，自己一定要坐自己生活的主人，只有先把自己的生活打理好了，才有可能以一种积极的方式去照顾、帮助、慰解别人的生活，如父母的生活，如果自己的生活都是一团麻，与父母离得再近、天天相见又意义几何，父母会快乐的看着自己孩子整天在如麻的生活里抓麻吗？
前两天经Lily点拔，买了Glenn Doman的两本书。自她走后我便沉浸在Doman教授的理论中，于是stimulation成了一个在脑海里再也挥不去的理念。他说爱因斯坦成为天才并非缘于基因，而是因为他的大脑在幼年被很好的开发了。因此原则上说，人人都能成为爱因斯坦，只要知道the right thing to do。
现在澜澜一有动静，我就会把手放在肚子上揉一揉，按一按，这是与她的第一种交流方式，当她收到了我的反应后就会动得更欢，完全象网站上所说的，真不可思议。这便是一种stimulation。亲爱的澜澜，你和妈妈已经开始有交流了。
4.08.2009
Lily在眼前出现
Lily来了，结果是只几个小时下来，面部肌肉极度酸痛，因为笑得太多了。她下了飞机直接到办公室来找我，于是我就顺便的休了一个午休，跟她一起回家。一个小时自然是很不经过，说话都恨不得三个字并一个字说。她胖了，但在我的眼里却依然很可爱，我说她就象个大胖娃娃，太好玩了。她对我的肚子很失望，在公司楼下等我时说想象着我象个小鸭子似的挺挺的走来，结果看见我后就皱着眉头说，“你这叫什么怀孕啊。”哎，我无奈的回答，“那幸好你没前两周来，这两天肚子还长了好多呢。”进了家门，她感慨好象做梦一样，一眨眼又到了澳洲状态。我很能理解这种感觉，飞机往往容易让人丧失距离感，好象迈出家门的时候是北京，再迈进家门的时候就到了澳洲。我给我们炒了个蛋炒饭，扮了个凉菜，还热了我头天炒的肉丝炒尖椒和炖的鸡脖子，给她吃的可香了。看，这个世界上最喜欢吃我做的饭的只有两个人，一个是Chris，另一个就是Lily，所以他们在我生活里就是这么特别。午休一小时眨眼过去，回到办公室便跟头请了周四的一天假，因为Lily周五就走了。很坦白的对头说，因为我的好朋友从北京来，就待几天，我想多陪陪她，头立现一幅理解状，毫不犹豫的答应了，好人哪。于是我的Easter假期从周四就开始了，周四要和Lily在city逛一天，好好叙一叙。
昨晚Chris，Lily和我一起在家附近吃泰国饭，Lily说在北京找不到这么正宗的泰国饭馆，结果三个人点了四个菜，还有一人一个entry。菜被吃掉三分之二的时候大家都纷纷说已经很饱了，便开始自我安慰的说，吃不了也没关系，咱们可以打包。然后继续喝着聊着，一个小时过后，所有盘子都见底了，Chris说，"Well, it's nothing to take away now."我总说，潜力都是这样被开发出来的。
吃完饭，Chris说一瓶香槟基本都让他一人喝的，做为司机酒精含量肯定超标了，Lily说她刚刚renew了她的驾照，她来开吧。我说如果我们打算周四开车出去，最好还是现在就开始练练手，熟悉一下车子，于是大家一致同意让Lily来开。从饭馆到家开车5分钟的距离，Lily大概用了15分钟，刚开出停车位就开到右边去了。Chris的性格就是这样，他从来不会跟别人大喊大叫的，于是他安静的坐在附驾驶上说，咱们最好在左边开。第一遍Lily没听到，他又以同样的声调、声量重复了一遍，终于被Lily消化了，回到了左边开。在环岛前，Lily开始减速，给已经在环岛的车让行，并很自豪的对我们说，“你看，我记得交规的，我在给他们让行。”Chris依然安静的，不紧不慢，不急不恼的说，“那确实是一个特别好的主意。”他俩配对开车简直太有喜剧效果了，我一路歪在后座，笑得直不起腰来。不过笑规笑，这一个trip之后我决定，周四还是跟Lily坐火车进城吧，我不想Chris那天下班后去医院接我们。
回家后就完全是girly time了，我给Lily看目前为止大家送澜澜的衣服，然后我俩坐在沙发上聊天，突然澜澜动得很欢，Lily便把手放在我肚子，我说你一说话她就会动的，于是Lily说，“我亲爱的儿媳妇，好好在里面长啊。”我突然想到前几天写的关于婆媳关系的博，于是有点撒骄的对Lily说，“你以后一定要好好待我的闺女啊！”她信挚诚诚的使劲点头，“我一定会对她好的。”
跟Lily在一起就是这样，说不清道不明的兴奋与开心。曾经跟Lily的妈妈聊过几句，关于生几个孩子的事情。她说生一个就行了，两个没必要。我说如果生两个就是给孩子一个伴，不然一个人孤苦伶仃的。她说，等孩子长大了都是个过个的，谁也顾不上谁，还不如交几个象你们这样的走得很近的知心朋友，也是一辈子的事。
附：选了明红色为这篇博的字体颜色，因为这是Lily最喜欢的颜色。
昨晚Chris，Lily和我一起在家附近吃泰国饭，Lily说在北京找不到这么正宗的泰国饭馆，结果三个人点了四个菜，还有一人一个entry。菜被吃掉三分之二的时候大家都纷纷说已经很饱了，便开始自我安慰的说，吃不了也没关系，咱们可以打包。然后继续喝着聊着，一个小时过后，所有盘子都见底了，Chris说，"Well, it's nothing to take away now."我总说，潜力都是这样被开发出来的。
吃完饭，Chris说一瓶香槟基本都让他一人喝的，做为司机酒精含量肯定超标了，Lily说她刚刚renew了她的驾照，她来开吧。我说如果我们打算周四开车出去，最好还是现在就开始练练手，熟悉一下车子，于是大家一致同意让Lily来开。从饭馆到家开车5分钟的距离，Lily大概用了15分钟，刚开出停车位就开到右边去了。Chris的性格就是这样，他从来不会跟别人大喊大叫的，于是他安静的坐在附驾驶上说，咱们最好在左边开。第一遍Lily没听到，他又以同样的声调、声量重复了一遍，终于被Lily消化了，回到了左边开。在环岛前，Lily开始减速，给已经在环岛的车让行，并很自豪的对我们说，“你看，我记得交规的，我在给他们让行。”Chris依然安静的，不紧不慢，不急不恼的说，“那确实是一个特别好的主意。”他俩配对开车简直太有喜剧效果了，我一路歪在后座，笑得直不起腰来。不过笑规笑，这一个trip之后我决定，周四还是跟Lily坐火车进城吧，我不想Chris那天下班后去医院接我们。
回家后就完全是girly time了，我给Lily看目前为止大家送澜澜的衣服，然后我俩坐在沙发上聊天，突然澜澜动得很欢，Lily便把手放在我肚子，我说你一说话她就会动的，于是Lily说，“我亲爱的儿媳妇，好好在里面长啊。”我突然想到前几天写的关于婆媳关系的博，于是有点撒骄的对Lily说，“你以后一定要好好待我的闺女啊！”她信挚诚诚的使劲点头，“我一定会对她好的。”
跟Lily在一起就是这样，说不清道不明的兴奋与开心。曾经跟Lily的妈妈聊过几句，关于生几个孩子的事情。她说生一个就行了，两个没必要。我说如果生两个就是给孩子一个伴，不然一个人孤苦伶仃的。她说，等孩子长大了都是个过个的，谁也顾不上谁，还不如交几个象你们这样的走得很近的知心朋友，也是一辈子的事。
附：选了明红色为这篇博的字体颜色，因为这是Lily最喜欢的颜色。
4.06.2009
星星点点
23周了，澜澜现在已经半斤多重了，29厘米长。昨天去同事家做客，同事的室友都说看不出我怀孕，真郁闷。
付琛开始飞澳洲线周五到达悉尼，周日走。本来计划周六约着见一面的，结果周六上午她打来电话说在飞机上感冒了，怕传染给我，约会就取消了。没见成面，但聊了一会。人的声音一辈子都不会变的，我一接起电话听那边说“林洛。。”，完完全全记忆里的声音，这么多年没见面了，却还是亲切无比。她问我怎么突然怀孕了，我说非意外中的意外，她说意外怀上的孩子都会很聪明的。她问我打不打算要两个孩子，我说不好说，不知最后我生的时候会是什么样，太难我就不再要了。然后她说，女人对生孩子的疼痛是没有记忆的。她说她刚完孩子的时候发誓，给座金山也不再生孩子，然而现在过去了最难的几个月后孩子越来越好玩，她就开始想，要是能再生一个就好了。她的这种说法我倒是完全相信，我对怀孕的感觉在这二十几周里已经有了变化，头三个月难受无比的时候曾很认真的想过，就一个孩子，我再也不怀孕了。但现在有时也不免憧憬两个孩子围绕身边的图画。大概有些东西就是一种天性吧。
我告诉付琛我已经把她减肥的事迹当成教材在身边新妈妈圈中传颂了。她怀孕一共涨了35KG，但在生完孩子6个月里成功的减回到怀孕前的体重。体重这样的大起大落并不是一件应该仿效的事，但她减肥的这份毅力和辛苦让人佩服。我总说，如果对自己的体重不满意，不要抱怨你没有瘦人的基因。人与人自然是不同的，有的人比起其他拥有一些先天的优势，这个我不否认，但对于任何人来说，只要你想瘦，并愿意为其做出努力，你就会比决定减肥之前瘦。一个人有多瘦，取决于这个人有多想瘦。一边说自己太胖，一边大口嚼着巧克力，一边报怨自己没有瘦人的基因，这样的人往往弄得我哭笑不得。
周六V全家来家里做客，看到了她的儿子小麦，可爱得让我没法形容。一双炯炯有神的大眼神好奇的看着发生在他身边的每一件事与人，不轻易微笑，却非常执著，象x-ray一样恨不得看透你的五脏六腹。偶感心情不爽，便哼叽两声，倒手了几人怀抱之后发现，姥姥是最大的安慰。姥姥一边抱着一边哄着一边忧忧的说，“现在就找姥姥，没准长大后连句姥姥听得懂的话都不会说。”一种无奈不言而喻，一种压力如影随形。同情的看了看V，无语了。
Lily明天到悉尼，一件期待中的事。
付琛开始飞澳洲线周五到达悉尼，周日走。本来计划周六约着见一面的，结果周六上午她打来电话说在飞机上感冒了，怕传染给我，约会就取消了。没见成面，但聊了一会。人的声音一辈子都不会变的，我一接起电话听那边说“林洛。。”，完完全全记忆里的声音，这么多年没见面了，却还是亲切无比。她问我怎么突然怀孕了，我说非意外中的意外，她说意外怀上的孩子都会很聪明的。她问我打不打算要两个孩子，我说不好说，不知最后我生的时候会是什么样，太难我就不再要了。然后她说，女人对生孩子的疼痛是没有记忆的。她说她刚完孩子的时候发誓，给座金山也不再生孩子，然而现在过去了最难的几个月后孩子越来越好玩，她就开始想，要是能再生一个就好了。她的这种说法我倒是完全相信，我对怀孕的感觉在这二十几周里已经有了变化，头三个月难受无比的时候曾很认真的想过，就一个孩子，我再也不怀孕了。但现在有时也不免憧憬两个孩子围绕身边的图画。大概有些东西就是一种天性吧。
我告诉付琛我已经把她减肥的事迹当成教材在身边新妈妈圈中传颂了。她怀孕一共涨了35KG，但在生完孩子6个月里成功的减回到怀孕前的体重。体重这样的大起大落并不是一件应该仿效的事，但她减肥的这份毅力和辛苦让人佩服。我总说，如果对自己的体重不满意，不要抱怨你没有瘦人的基因。人与人自然是不同的，有的人比起其他拥有一些先天的优势，这个我不否认，但对于任何人来说，只要你想瘦，并愿意为其做出努力，你就会比决定减肥之前瘦。一个人有多瘦，取决于这个人有多想瘦。一边说自己太胖，一边大口嚼着巧克力，一边报怨自己没有瘦人的基因，这样的人往往弄得我哭笑不得。
周六V全家来家里做客，看到了她的儿子小麦，可爱得让我没法形容。一双炯炯有神的大眼神好奇的看着发生在他身边的每一件事与人，不轻易微笑，却非常执著，象x-ray一样恨不得看透你的五脏六腹。偶感心情不爽，便哼叽两声，倒手了几人怀抱之后发现，姥姥是最大的安慰。姥姥一边抱着一边哄着一边忧忧的说，“现在就找姥姥，没准长大后连句姥姥听得懂的话都不会说。”一种无奈不言而喻，一种压力如影随形。同情的看了看V，无语了。
Lily明天到悉尼，一件期待中的事。
4.03.2009
澜澜收到的礼物
澜澜安静了一早上，刚才我一登录这个博客，她便开始动换，好象知道我要为她写点什么了似的。有时在想，如果将来澜澜不能读中文，她就没法读这些博了，中文教育的压力我从她产生的那一刻开始就无时无刻不感觉着，不象其他在国外生活的中国夫妇一样，他们至少可以营造一个在家里说中文的环境，而澜澜的中文语言环境就只能通过我一个人跟她说来创造。
自从我有了澜澜，很多中国的朋友问我澳洲的福利、养孩子的经济压力等等的问题，我总说，养一个孩子，至少在澳洲，经济压力不是父母面临的最主要的挑战，事情总是有余地来work around，再加上政府的一些支持。但教育则是完全另一个话题了，因为它的无形、它的多样、它的潜移默化的看似简单却影响厚重的性质让我时时感觉做父母任务的艰巨。我们需要把一种道理传输给他们，却不能把意志强加给他们；我们需要引导他们，却不能主宰他们；我们似乎总在精心的设计什么，而自己无意中的一言一行、言传身教对他们的影响更深刻；我们试图去尽可能的创造一种有益的环境，却不能完全理解这种环境对他们的每一种细微的影响。所以，为人父母，把他们养大与教育他们成长，哪一个挑战更大大概不言而喻吧。
昨天婆婆送来了一箱子她买给澜澜的东西，这已经是第三拔了，而我才怀孕22周。妈妈寄来了给澜澜做的被褥、垫子什么的；同事送给澜澜一包她如今10个月大的女儿当时没有机会穿的全新的衣服。昨天婆婆的东西又在沙发上堆起了一座山，从小背心、小裤子、小帽子到小夹克、小棉袄、小被子。。小孩的东西本来就可爱，再加上是女孩的东西，昨天我一件件打开这些东西，嘴就一直没能合上，简直就是一片粉色的海洋，然后我笑着说，要是ultrasound错了怎么办，这男孩的一辈子女性细胞非得在头几个月都开发出来。我现在已经等不及把澜澜的房间收拾出来，把这些东西都洗干净分文别类的放进澜澜的衣柜里，Chris说澜澜还没有出来，她的衣服已经比他的衣服多了，我说女孩都是high maintance，难到你不知道吗？
自从我有了澜澜，很多中国的朋友问我澳洲的福利、养孩子的经济压力等等的问题，我总说，养一个孩子，至少在澳洲，经济压力不是父母面临的最主要的挑战，事情总是有余地来work around，再加上政府的一些支持。但教育则是完全另一个话题了，因为它的无形、它的多样、它的潜移默化的看似简单却影响厚重的性质让我时时感觉做父母任务的艰巨。我们需要把一种道理传输给他们，却不能把意志强加给他们；我们需要引导他们，却不能主宰他们；我们似乎总在精心的设计什么，而自己无意中的一言一行、言传身教对他们的影响更深刻；我们试图去尽可能的创造一种有益的环境，却不能完全理解这种环境对他们的每一种细微的影响。所以，为人父母，把他们养大与教育他们成长，哪一个挑战更大大概不言而喻吧。
昨天婆婆送来了一箱子她买给澜澜的东西，这已经是第三拔了，而我才怀孕22周。妈妈寄来了给澜澜做的被褥、垫子什么的；同事送给澜澜一包她如今10个月大的女儿当时没有机会穿的全新的衣服。昨天婆婆的东西又在沙发上堆起了一座山，从小背心、小裤子、小帽子到小夹克、小棉袄、小被子。。小孩的东西本来就可爱，再加上是女孩的东西，昨天我一件件打开这些东西，嘴就一直没能合上，简直就是一片粉色的海洋，然后我笑着说，要是ultrasound错了怎么办，这男孩的一辈子女性细胞非得在头几个月都开发出来。我现在已经等不及把澜澜的房间收拾出来，把这些东西都洗干净分文别类的放进澜澜的衣柜里，Chris说澜澜还没有出来，她的衣服已经比他的衣服多了，我说女孩都是high maintance，难到你不知道吗？
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)